Problems of dating

Everyone knows dating is complicated.  In the busy world there are multiple factors that make a date not work. There are many road blocks along the way and in the end often most meetings do not work out. Here are a few that I have run into in the process.

Busy girl problem:
You really like the guy, are not ready to be exclusive, but don't have time to really meet up with new people, but don't want to freak out the current beau and give the wrong idea, and you do really like the guy so far so you also don't want to give out the wrong idea that your feelings are neutral. How do you tell them?

Multiple dating problem:
You meet a few people all around the same time and then progress at different comfort levels with each person. You also are not always the same person around the different guys because they bring out different characteristics. You have to be careful to remember the individual details and not confuse the information.  Often your availability is limited due to multiple dates in a week.  It's exhausting and in the end usually none of them win because it's to hard.

Chemistry online, but not in person problem:
You talk online and can not believe how you hit it off! When you meet in person there is an instant moment where there is absolutely no attraction. If you do find them attractive, but through conversation realize that the chemistry online was due to the fact you could both banter in a witty way through thoughtfully crafted emails.  In person there was just a big fat thud.

I really really really like this person problem:
The I really really really like this person is also known as the deer in the headlights I'm to spooked to move problem so you don't move.  The dates start to go really badly, and they are your fault. You know they are your fault, but like a deer in the headlights you need to be coaxed forward to move.  It's almost like your body is trying to sabotage you.

Amazing first meeting problem:
It's an amazing story of how you first met. You agree to go out, but then they never actually get around to asking you on a date. The world screams ask them out, but statistically you know that if they don't initiate the date in the long run it's not going to happen. Plus the first time meeting was so great that the date would be impossible to match.

It's going great:
It is going great...all of it in fact! The pace of the relationship, the chemistry, the secret tests (friends, animals, kissing) and now you actually feel like it has potential.  You actually want to know more about the person. The deeper things like past relationships, who they want to be down the road, and some of their fears.  Potential can be really scary when the above list lingers over your head.  Here is to trusting the process, everything happens for a reason, put it in someone else's hand, have patience motto's.  This isn't a problem, it's actually a good thing!

Bunghole Queen

Written on the bunghole in my hand was "Tour guide ---heart--->>>Dizzy"

It's girls weekend, my friends from Ohio are up for a visit. We head up to Milwaukee for a brewery tour at the best tour on earth!  In true Dizzy fashion I couldn't find the email confirmation for the tickets, but I did see the charge on my credit card. Here was hoping my name was on the list!  Fast forward to glasses in hand and the tour guide giving us crap for straggling behind at the beer counter.  After mentioning icebreakers in his talk and making fun of my shoes, my friends and I came to the concluding that we all are in Higher Ed.  I was laughing my ass off on the tour with all of the references to orientation and student affairs theories. In the middle of the tour they explain the distribution process and the "bunghole" that gets waked into the keg at the end. Of course they set the mood first, dim the lights, place on soft music, etc.  Each tour they pick and queen and I got the bunghole :) At the end of the tour the five of us talked about the conferences we were going to, where we all went to grad school and what we were doing after the tour. Our guide suggested we all meet up when he was off work. I passed him my phone and as he was typing it in he got a funny look on his face. He asked to talk with me in private for a moment. His number was already in my phone under his first name and last name "match," apparently we had already talked via match.com. We had in fact texted a few times but never went out. I blushed and was awkward. My friends were dying laughing at me. I think this is the best meet story I have ever had in my life! Oh and with the bunghole in hand, I got  to drink for free. That was a sweet second!

I like you

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I think this picture is perfect example of where I'm at, I like you (shhhhhh), but not ready to say it so I'm going to write it secretly in my notebook.  Happy Valentine's Day and cheers to the start of my Leap Year List :)

The chat window in online dating

Dear Gentleman,

I know that sexting, sex chatting, and dirty talk is fun...trust me...but sometimes it gets really old and unsexy when that is your only opening line every time. Sometimes I just want to open the chat window to a "hi" or even "hello" and not "it's 10 inches"or "want to watch me jerk off." No where in my profile do I say "only looking for sex,"in fact it says "looking to date." I didn't even post a picture of me half naked in my bathroom trying to take a picture. She did click on her ^

Leap Year List # 4

Find a reason to wear a beautiful dress that is this big and bright!

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